something i really hate: when people (especially ones i haven't spoken to in a while) just approach me, bombard me, and go on fucking rampage about their lives and issues and problems NONSTOP expecting my brilliant advice and full attention, before they have even asked "how are you?" .... if they even end up asking me at all.
i'm not saying i'm fucking perfect but i swear people lately have lost all fucking values and common courtesy and respect. even in my most dire emotional emergencies, i
1. save it for someone i'm close to and speak to often and have an actual relationship with
2. at the VERY least preface it by saying i need to talk about something if they have a chance
3. ask them how they are/what they're up to/if it's a decent time for me to vent
....because unless it is absolutely urgent, there is no reason to be completely utterly selfish. i'm tired of LA/ny/american drama kings and queens who think that not being able to choose an outfit is a crisis. who think that having feelings for their ex is BREAKING NEWS and potentially a HUGE PROBLEM. talk to me when you have some real problems. or ask me if i have time to listen. cause more often than not i have plenty of time to be all ears and would love to help but i just can't stand people who expedite the mutual-respect process.
something really brilliant my therapist Joan once told me was that no one likes you when you project ADD into your personality/ express infatuation towards them, because all it says is that you don't see the person for who they are, and you could be venting to ANYONE or infatuated with ANYONE. you make it all really impersonal.
there are some people who i think FINALLY get it. there are others who close their minds off to all reasoning and just aimlessly pursue and pursue and pursue. i'm not one of you and if i was, i always knew the difference and i never wanted your style.
"i never wanted your style"
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deep thoughts LK